Eastern gurus are always open to talking about love and divine love. What they won’t talk about, though, is sin, and the human need for divine ~forgiveness~, and Christ crucified and risen, as Savior.
Matthew 18:32-35 New King James Version (NKJV)
32 Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. 33 Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’ 34 And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.
35 “So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.”
There is something that I have noticed in people (and in myself, duh!*) that is, by far, the most terrifying thing I have ever seen.
It is unforgiveness and resentment.
Doesn’t sound that bad, does it?
But it is: unforgiveness and resentment are enough to destroy your very soul.
This is God-awful terrifying, and oppressive, and overwhelming.
This is the worst thing I can think of.
I can think of three people from my life, all now dead, who were the most miserable people I have ever met (other than myself, years ago—the link to my story is below).
The one, a woman, I knew through working as a CNA. The deadness, anger, negativity, unforgiveness, and resentment in what little was left of her soul are beyond the power of my words to adequately describe.
Once, I gave her a Bible, and she literally threw it in the trash right in front of me.
When I went to her funeral and saw her body in the casket, I am not trying to be funny, her personality did not seem to have changed.
Her resentment and evil, her presence, was awful to experience.
Two other people, old men, were the most angry, negative, miserable people. Always resentment coming out of their mouths.
All three of these people seemed to have the attitude that they had never sinned against anyone, but that many other people had sinned against them.
And then, of course, my own suicidal depression, brought on by my anger and unforgiveness and extreme resentment against those who had grievously sinned against me.
I am NOT talking about theory here!
In Matthew 18:32-35, God Himself promises to send “torturers” on people who do not forgive other people of all sins.
I have personally experienced this torture. It was called extreme fear, terrifying anxiety, soul-crushing despair, indescribable pain, and suicidal depression.
Some of us fools think we can can set ourselves up as the supreme judge of other people and hold their sins against them, ignoring our own sins that God has forgiven us.
But God will torment unbelievers forever in Hell for their sins.
And God will judge saved believers at the Great White Throne Judgment the for bad things they did, including the sins of unforgiveness and resentment.
Anger leads to unforgiveness, unforgiveness leads to resentment, resentment leads to terrifying painful, soul-crushing, “mental illness.”
This is the worst fate a human being can have on this earth, psychologically and spiritually.
Unforgiveness and resentment will grind your soul into Hell on Earth in screaming, suffocating horror far beyond the ability of your mind to now imagine.
A lot of times people think that others are negative, but really what they are is resentful and unforgiving.
Worldly people say that we need to “let go.”
I don’t believe that.
We need to forgive.
Time heals no one.
Only forgiveness heals the soul.
If we can’t forgive, then we need to go to God in Jesus Christ and get help through his Holy Spirit to forgive—because you cannot live without forgiving.
If you live in unforgiveness and resentment, the life that you live will be a burning seething Hell of torment, fear, anxiety, depression, and despair.
Unforgiveness and resentment in a person is awful beyond words to describe.
Only in forgiveness can you be healed and free.
Forgiveness is not divine only.
It is absolutely ~necessary~ for people to forgive, Christian or not, saved or not.
If you do not forgive, you cannot live and enjoy life.
I do not care one bit what anyone else has done to you. I don’t care how awful or painful or terrible it was: if you do not forgive them 100% and persistently, forgiving them over and over, continually, your life will be seething pile of burning soul wreckage FAR WORSE than the abuse done to you.
Unforgiveness and resentment eventually result in anger, fear, anxiety, depression, despair, and possibly suicide.
God, who has forgiven you 100% in Christ, will NOT allow you to peacefully and happily go around with resentment towards others, or even against any one person. See Matthew 18:32-35 and before.
If you forgive, you will have JOY, if you do not forgive, your life will be some level of HELL on earth.
I am 100% sure of this.
Forgive everyone of everything, everyday, no exceptions.
And have peace and joy.
May Jesus bless you with His love, and His total forgiveness, and His ongoing forgiveness.
What I am about to say is not an exaggeration, nor is it a poetic flourish. This is something to live by daily and to absolutely never forget. This is the most important lesson I have ever learned (and am still learning).
The greatest pain and suffering, by far, that I have ever experienced, has come from unforgiveness, resentment, hatred, and unresolved anger.
Jesus was not kidding when He said that if you do not forgive others their sins against you that God will not forgive ~your~ sins, and that He will send the ~torturers~ against you. (The torturers are not men in black masks holding swords in dungeons, but depressing, despairing, painful, terrifying emotions and destructive effects in your life.)
This does not mean that a believer in Jesus is not saved if he does not forgive, but that he will receive the same kind of judgment and punishment and torment from God in his soul that he is giving to others in his mind.
Here are part of the verses of the story Jesus told, in Matthew 18:28-35:
But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, ‘Pay me what you owe!’ So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’ And he would not, but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt. So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved, and came and told their master all that had been done.
Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me.
Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’
And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.
So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.
Forgiving others ~completely~ is the key that unlocks the door out of the worst mental and emotional prison there is. Not forgiving others their sins against you, ~no matter how painful and severe or evil or unjust those sins and abuses were~, is the most destructive force, no exaggeration, in anyone’s life, that I have ever seen. I can think of ten people I’ve known, right off the top of my head, whose lives seem ruled by, and ruined by: resentment, anger, hate and unforgiveness.
The anger that comes from not forgiving others (especially not forgiving those who have severely abused you ~or people like them~) can cause depression, inner chaos and painful thoughts and emotions, random angers, wanting to get rid of friends who do you wrong, suicidal thoughts, despair of life, general negativity, overeating, obesity, alcohol and drug abuse, emotional pain and emptiness, relationship problems, domestic abuse, violence, stress!, health problems, spiritual problems; terrifying, excruciating emotional pain, and probably many other things.
One of the worst things about unforgiveness is that the pain and problems keep coming back if you forget this lesson and start hating and wanting revenge again (what you and I foolishly and sinfully call, “justice”). My opinion is that ~most~ people in therapists’ and psychiatrists’ offices are there because they do not have the emotional freedom that forgiveness could provide
~in a moment~.
(And forgiveness is a continually daily repeated thing, for new offenses, and for old offenses newly remembered.) It is easy to forget this lesson, and to start hating again. Lives are literally destroyed by unforgiveness.
Lives are healed and prospered by forgiveness.
Forgiveness is ~love~.
First Note: You do not have to stay around or in relationships with destructive or unloving people.
Second Note: Our hatred and vengeance is sinful, whereas God’s hatred and vengeance is pure and good, because it is ~righteous~ (holy) judgment against sin.
God dealt with all sin by having His Son tortured and killed on the cross, once for all, for the just payment and forgiveness of ~all~ sins of ~all~ people. Believe in Him and be forgiven of your sins, saved forever, given a new life, filled with His Spirit, and destined for Heaven–irrevocably and permanently.
Pray for and give gifts to those who hurt you, whom you forgive, as Jesus commands you to do. Give good for evil, not evil for evil. Overcome evil with good. We all need Jesus’ help and love and power and wisdom and comfort to forgive. Ask the Holy Spirit for help and for the ability to forgive. Forgiving must be 100% toward everyone, for everything they have ever done to you, and everything everyone continues to do to you, for you to really live
If I needed to sum up what Christians and churches should be, these three things would be it.
Of course, there is Bible study, prayer, evangelism, worship and fellowship, and many other things, but based on the Bible, if I could pick three things that are really needed, these would be those.
Today’s churches focus on Lordship Salvation False Gospel, attendance–large crowds, theologically deficient ego-rock for songs, Family focus (what about all the single people like me?), Money and Entertainment and Politics.
My guess is Jesus is ready to spit many of them out of His mouth after getting a taste of what they are doing. (see the book of Revelation)
What I Believe:
GOD: Holy Trinity: God is Three Persons in One Being: God.
The Trinity is God the Father, God the Son (Jesus Christ), and God the Holy Spirit.
There are Three Persons in One God. God is Self-Existing (Aseity.)
CREATION: God created the universe in six 24-hour days about 6,000 years ago.
SIN: Humanity fell into sin by disobeying God in the Garden of Eden.
ANGELIC BEINGS: There is a real person, Satan, who tried to usurp God’s authority and became evil, taking many angels with him. Angels are usually invisible.
There are many good angels that did not fall into evil and rebellion against God.
God chose individuals throughout history to represent Him: Noah, Abraham, Moses, David, Isaiah, and others.
FLOOD: God destroyed most life on earth in a global Flood, saving only Noah and his family to restart humanity.
LAW: God instituted the Law under Moses, which was a system of rewards and punishments. Also, God instituted animal sacrifices to cover the sins of His Old Testament people in advance of the efficacious sacrifice of Christ Jesus Himself on the Cross.
FAITH: Abraham was “the father of faith,” believing God through very difficult circumstances.
SCRIPTURE: The Bible, 66 books, was written by men who were inspired by God over many years. The Bible is inspired, inerrant and infallible, and is preserved by God.
ISRAEL: Jacob’s children, the children of Israel, were God’s Covenant people in the Old Testament. This was the people which contained the human ancestors of Jesus Christ, the Son of God.
SALVATION: Jesus Christ is true God and true man. Out of love, God sent Jesus to rescue mankind from its awful hellish destiny apart from Him.
Jesus’ sinless life, sacrificial death on the cross for the forgiveness of all sins, His burial, and His resurrection, are the Gospel: 1st Corinthians 15:1-4. Anyone who believes in Jesus as Savior even for a moment, has forgiveness and eternal life (justification), and is irrevocably destined for Heaven at death (eternal security).
SANCTIFICATION: By faith in Christ who is our perfect goodness (Sanctification), believers are made holy in practical life (growing in Grace).
END TIMES AND ETERNITY: Jesus Christ will return to Earth to judge humanity, resurrecting everyone from the dead, sending believers to Heaven and unbelieving sinners to Hell to be justly punished forever in eternal and everlasting conscious punishment, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually for their unforgiven sins.
Believers will live forever with Jesus in Heaven and on the remade new Earth, Jesus and believers, and Heaven and Earth, united together.